Update On Joanne
____________________________ A meeting place for the FRIAMILY of Joanne Daquano _____________________________Friday, August 18
Smile though your heart is breaking ...
Last night was probably the toughest job one parent can ever have and the most difficult part Mike has had to deal with so far. Although he'd already spoken to Dylan previously, Mike sat the kids down last night at the hospital and told Dean and Darcy that their mother was going to die. He said that Dean might already have known or realized it but that Darcy had no idea. Her face completely changed and she began to cry. They all had a good cry but Mike being Mike was able to use humour to help alleviate the stress.
He said they could talk to him but that he was just "dumb ol' dad" and they laughed. He told them that they needed to use other people they know and love to talk to if they needed. He said that Dylan has his music, Dean has his hockey and Darcy has her dance and that they need to use that focus to help them through this. He also said to them ... One day Darcy will be dancing in Ireland, Dean will be playing with the NHL and Dylan will be up on stage with Led Zeplin and someone will turn to them and say "don't you feel the pressure" and they'll confidently be able to say "Nope! You don't know pressure."
Mike and the kids came to join Mom, Dad, myself and my girls in the courtyard. Mike was able to breathe a sign of relief and a few more tears fell as he relayed his conversation with the kids to us. Then we looked over to see Dean gleefully on top of Dylan's shoulders and Darcy laughing, running around being chased by her cousins. Kids will be kids. They are strong, resilient and beautiful and in a moment of complete despair ... they smile!
Love,
Kim
He said they could talk to him but that he was just "dumb ol' dad" and they laughed. He told them that they needed to use other people they know and love to talk to if they needed. He said that Dylan has his music, Dean has his hockey and Darcy has her dance and that they need to use that focus to help them through this. He also said to them ... One day Darcy will be dancing in Ireland, Dean will be playing with the NHL and Dylan will be up on stage with Led Zeplin and someone will turn to them and say "don't you feel the pressure" and they'll confidently be able to say "Nope! You don't know pressure."
Mike and the kids came to join Mom, Dad, myself and my girls in the courtyard. Mike was able to breathe a sign of relief and a few more tears fell as he relayed his conversation with the kids to us. Then we looked over to see Dean gleefully on top of Dylan's shoulders and Darcy laughing, running around being chased by her cousins. Kids will be kids. They are strong, resilient and beautiful and in a moment of complete despair ... they smile!
Love,
Kim
posted by Ted D # 12:24 PM 
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Mike, We can't imagine how tough last night had to be for you. You have been everything to everyone... You've managed to be a Dad, a husband, a caretaker, a provider, and a friend to so many. You have held it together for your wife and children without complaint or self-pity.
Please make sure that you remember to take care of "Mike" also. We are here for you... Don't hesitate to lean on us. It's OK to let go and stop being Mr. Strong man, all day... everyday.
Do you know why airlines instruct adults who are sitting with children to put their own oxygen mask on first?
In order to help their children survive it is essential that the adult take care of themselves first. When the adult can breathe it is much easier to gain control of the situation and administer life saving oxygen to any child in need.
In an attempt to save them first, you risk running out of oxygen for yourself.
I thinks it's great advice, no matter what the situation. Your children need a "healthy" Dad. The more at ease you are with everything, the more emotion that you are able to unlock, the healthier you will be, and the greater the long term benefits to your children.
I reapeat again... We are here for you... USE US... Please!
Lovingly, Your Family and Friends who are here to support you until the end and beyond.
Please make sure that you remember to take care of "Mike" also. We are here for you... Don't hesitate to lean on us. It's OK to let go and stop being Mr. Strong man, all day... everyday.
Do you know why airlines instruct adults who are sitting with children to put their own oxygen mask on first?
In order to help their children survive it is essential that the adult take care of themselves first. When the adult can breathe it is much easier to gain control of the situation and administer life saving oxygen to any child in need.
In an attempt to save them first, you risk running out of oxygen for yourself.
I thinks it's great advice, no matter what the situation. Your children need a "healthy" Dad. The more at ease you are with everything, the more emotion that you are able to unlock, the healthier you will be, and the greater the long term benefits to your children.
I reapeat again... We are here for you... USE US... Please!
Lovingly, Your Family and Friends who are here to support you until the end and beyond.
# posted by 
: 2:48 PM
: 2:48 PM
From the Chouinards...
I have been wanting to write my thoughts and for the life of me, I can't think of what to say. Nothing can capture the feelings that we have for you Jo and your beautiful family. Please know that you can consider us your giant catchers mitt... for anything.
You are loved, respected, cherished and admired. Maxine, Jamie, Max and Anica
I have been wanting to write my thoughts and for the life of me, I can't think of what to say. Nothing can capture the feelings that we have for you Jo and your beautiful family. Please know that you can consider us your giant catchers mitt... for anything.
You are loved, respected, cherished and admired. Maxine, Jamie, Max and Anica
# posted by : 5:47 PM
: 5:47 PM
Hey Mike, Joanne, Dylan, Dean and Darcy. Well baby this is not how it was supposed to go but here we are. Ryerson, fellow baldees, sharers of the same doctor and the same defected boob!! Marriers of our long time sweethearts and three beautiful children each. 2000 Dragonboating champions (who can forget the pink KOOLAID hair!!) Ah Joanne you have made my life richer just from knowing you. Your neighbour commented on the fact that you are a beautiful woman and he is right you shine from the inside out and I love you.
Always are you in my thoughts.
Love Janette
Always are you in my thoughts.
Love Janette
# posted by : 7:41 PM
: 7:41 PM
What Cancer Cannot Do
Cancer is so limiting...But
It cannot cripple Love
It cannot shatter Hope
It cannot corrode Faith
It cannot eat away Peace
It cannot Destroy Confidence
It cannot Kill Friendship
It cannot Shut out Memories
It cannot Silence Courage
It cannot Invade the Sole
It cannot Reduce Eternal Life
It cannot Quench the Spirit
It cannot Lessen the Power of the Resurrection!
As Joanne and Mike's friends and family we know that this is true!
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Cancer is so limiting...But
It cannot cripple Love
It cannot shatter Hope
It cannot corrode Faith
It cannot eat away Peace
It cannot Destroy Confidence
It cannot Kill Friendship
It cannot Shut out Memories
It cannot Silence Courage
It cannot Invade the Sole
It cannot Reduce Eternal Life
It cannot Quench the Spirit
It cannot Lessen the Power of the Resurrection!
As Joanne and Mike's friends and family we know that this is true!
# posted by : 9:38 PM
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